New Replaces Old – The Ultimate Universal Law
Author: Dr. K. S. Kang
Perhaps it is natural that by and large a person gets inclined more towards his spouse than his parents though they had given birth to him and had they not been there he would not have come into existence. Perhaps it is essential too as nature also desires that a person should favour the spouse rather than his parents in order to propagate human generation. And then when a third person joins the family the new member is certain to take some attention of the members of the family, at least her husband, though children should not neglect or ignore their parents altogether after getting wedded. There is nothing unnatural or illogical in it. But seniors in the family only require regard and a feeling, even if false one, that their children take their advise and guidance before taking any step in their life. Even if children do not act as per their advise will not hurt the seniors as much as the thing that they have not been consulted at all or nobody felt the need of consulting them. That way they will feel marginalised, alienated and neglected. Even children take their permission before doing anything gives seniors a feeling of content that they are still of some worth in this world.
Likewise after superannuation from job after putting in a reasonably good span of life at a place, a person expects that he will be given regard and respect whenever he comes across his junior colleagues. But even if they get less regard after retirement at their former working place then it should not disturb the people as after his exit from the job, his junior colleagues may have moved to supervisory positions, their area of responsibility may have enhanced, they may be facing new issues, worries and anxieties regarding the work so they may not be able to give that much attention to you as they listened to you when you were in the chair. As it is a universal law that the new replaces and sometimes even displaces the old. Sometimes new people come in who may not know you so well than the acquaintance you had with your former colleagues. A person should not feel dejected if he does not get that warm welcome in his former place of working though the intention of his colleagues, still working there, is not to disregard you but they may be too busy to face their issues and daily problems that they could not pay that much attention to you that you desired. But juniors should also make it a point to give as much attention and regard as possible because seniors having experience may give you some clue that may help you to tackle some problem easily.
I would like to conclude this piece by giving an example stressing the significance of the aged and experienced people in the society. Once a wedding took place in which the bride party kept a condition that the wedding procession should include only young people. Groom party agreed to it and on the wedding day fifty young men proceeded in the wedding procession. While the vehicle of the procession was about to start the journey, an old man urged them to take him also as he will be helpful there. After initial hesitation they decided to hide the old man under the seat so as to meet the condition of the bride side that all people in the procession should be young people. As they reached the spot, bride side put another condition that first of all they will have to eat 50 kgs of sweet that they have arranged for them, then only the procession can proceed further for the wedding. After hurried consultation one of them decided to consult the experienced man hidden under the seat of the bus. After consulting him the decision to bride side was communicated that they are ready to eat 50 kgs of sweets provided it is brought in the instalments of 1 kg after a gap of one hour. Bride side could not afford to waste that much time so they took back their condition but they protested that you have brought some old man definitely with you, otherwise this solution would not have occurred to you. So this weight of experience that can tilt the scale in one’s favour.
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